that I cannot stand people calling / mailing / scrapping / sms-ing me to ask – “How’s your married life going?”
People who read this blog: Please refrain from asking me the above question. Ever.
No, I do not mind you asking me – “How’s life?” I will answer that. I will say whether it is good, great, bad, too much work, too little work, etc. But, I will not reply when you ask how my married life is going!
I have a problem with that on many different levels. Want me to elaborate? Okay…here goes…
- Does anyone ask my husband that? Is his life supposed to change too? I have never heard anyone ask him that? Why do you suppose that my life will change dramatically?
- Why do you assume that I will happily be changing things around in my life, to make it different from my-life-when-it-was-my-life?
- Yes, I’m married. Yes, things have changed. But, I’m first the person I always have been. Then, a daughter, grand-daughter and sister, a friend, a student, an employee, and a film maker. After all of that, did I become a wife. Now, when none of you people asked me about college life, work life, life as a daughter, life as a friend, or as a sister – why the sudden classification of my life now?
Okay, I’m done.